20 Something ADHD Expert’s Tip of the Month – September

Running to Keep Up?

By Barbara McRae, MCC

Have you ever been in such a rush, such as speeding on the highway, only to miss your exit? Most of us have. Often the result of rushing backfires and we end up wasting more time!

Whenever we experience life’s little aggravations, we can see them as reminders to stop rushing. This way, we don’t have to keep falling into pot holes.

Have you stopped to examine why you’re in such a self-imposed hurry? What are your concerns about slowing down? Perhaps you can relate to the reasons that my clients have identified:

“If I don’t hurry, I’ll get behind and won’t be able to catch up.”

“I might miss out on some important opportunities.”

“I don’t know who I’d be if I wasn’t rushing.”

“I like to get into action quickly and get things done; I feed off of rushing.”

“I like going into overdrive because it keeps me from brooding about my personal relationships.”

Perhaps, you’re living with the illusion that moving quickly is advantageous. And at first glance, it might seem that way. But upon further reflection, though, you’ll find that you’re just consuming more energy. Plus you risk making huge blunders.

Busyness can be seductive, serving as a distraction and giving you the false belief that as long as you’re taking action, all is well.

What is driving you to move faster or do so much? Is it based on your passion or rooted in fear? What if you began to deliberately evaluate WHEN it’s best to slow down or speed up? What would change?

In the meantime, here are some tips to improve your focus and keep you from falling back into your rushing habit:

Pay Attention to the Details.

When you’re reading your messages quickly it’s easy to make assumptions. Read every word even if you think you already know what it says. Double-check the details before you take any action. Don’t miss out. Skipping one word can completely change the meaning.

Give Yourself a Break.

It’s not the error or the missed opportunity that causes us pain; it’s actually our reactive thoughts about our actions, or non-actions, that causes our stress. Help yourself bounce back by asking yourself, “What am I learning about myself in this situation?” There’s always a solution. When you’re calm, you’ll be able to access it.

Find the Humor contained in each Event.

The fastest way to regroup is to laugh at yourself. Ask yourself: If this happened to someone else, what would be funny about it? Then, challenge yourself to focus on THAT story! As soon as you lighten up and laugh about what just happened, you’ll gain a productive perspective.

My best!

~ Barbara McRae, MCC
20-Somethings ADHD Expert, Campus Calm™
© Copyright 2011 Barbara McRae

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