Be thankful for love and support
One great way to build abundance and create a safe circle of family and friends is to be thankful for the love and support that already exists in your life. When you put energy towards the positive things that you already have, instead of focusing on what you don’t have, your abundance will grow. I am not talking about abundance in the form of material gain. I’m talking about the abundance of love and support. Abundance can come into your life in many different ways — if you are open to it.
I know it can be hard to shift your focus to positivity when you are a gay student who is struggling with your sexuality. But it’s important for you to know that there are plenty of resources available for you, such as Gay-Straight Alliance groups, non-profit organizations, teachers, school counselors, books, movies and more. These resources exist for the sole purpose of helping you find the comfort, support and positive reinforcement you need to accept yourself fully and recognize all the wonderful things about you. You can also find the support you need from your friends. Be thankful for those friends in your life who take the time to listen and help you sort through your feelings. If you have opened up to family members who have offered their support as well, be thankful for them. Be thankful for everyone who extends love and support in your direction, whether it’s a close family member or friend, or even a celebrity that you admire. You’ll be amazed at how easily you attract more positivity, love and support into your world when you are grateful.
When I was in high school, I wasn’t grateful for the friendships I had because I mistakenly believed that no one would ever understand what I was going through and that I wouldn’t be able to find the support I needed. As a result, I never reached out to any friends, teachers, counselors or family members. I dealt with fear and anxiety about my sexuality, and that took away from my enjoyment of high school. I had plenty of wonderful friends and adults in my life that would have supported me without a second thought. But I never gave them the opportunity to do so.
I once thought that being different from other students made me small and insignificant. But the truth is that our differences are what make us unique, and they give us the opportunity to grow and expand our horizons. I am grateful for my differences, because I wouldn’t be who I am today without them. November is the perfect month to express gratitude for all of the goodness in your life. Once you start focusing on the goodness, the negative stuff that seemed so ominous and threatening before will begin to fade away. But, don’t just take my word for it. Try it for yourself and see what happens.
~ Lyndsey D’Arcangelo, GLBT Student Stress Expert, Campus Calm™