Are You Headed Toward or Away?
Reprinted with permission from Christine Hassler Blog
Our motivation is directional, impacting the results we create and the ease in which we create them. Think about when you are motivated to do something. Are you motivated more by what you want to get away from or what you want to move toward?
TOWARD motivation moves us toward more of what we desire while AWAY from motivation is an attempt to get us away from circumstances/feelings that are causing discomfort. Let’s consider some examples. Say you decided to jump into a relationship because you were sick of feeling sad, lonely, or scared. Or perhaps you began exercising because you hate the way you look and feel. Those choices are both based heavily on away from motivation, which typically does not sustain our motivation or inspire us. Away from motivation feels more like a have-to or a should.
Whereas toward motivation feels like an empowered choice. Say you chose to leave a relationship or job because you want to experience more confidence, freedom and faith in yourself. Or you join a gym because you want to feel invigorated, strong and healthy. Notice the difference? When we focus more on what we want to move toward rather that what we want to get away from, often decisions become clearer and easier to commit to.
Most decisions will have a little of both toward and away from motivation; however, one or the other will usually be in the lead. I encourage you to focus on creating more TOWARD motivation in your life. If you look in the direction you want to go instead of over your shoulder at where you’ve been, you will discover greater clarity, confidence and discernment. Furthermore, you will be less likely to make decisions based on fear, sadness, anxiety or overwhelm since those feelings produce away from motivation.
“You have brains in your head. You have feet in your shoes. You can steer yourself any direction you choose. You’re on your own. And you know what you know. And YOU are the one who’ll decide where to go…”
– Dr. Seuss
~ Christine Hassler, 20-Something Crisis Survival Expert