How to Deal With Your Child Wanting to Drop Out of College
Article courtesy of University Parent Media
It’s not an easy issue to handle, especially not if you’ve been saving up for a good many years, scrimping and budgeting in order to send your child to college. So when you learn that he or she wants to drop out, it is definitely going to come as a severe shock. There’s no easy way to deal with this problem, because your heart is going to be torn between wanting to support your child and trying to put some sense into his or her head. But, if you take a day or two to compose yourself and deal with the problem logically rather than emotionally, here are a few tips that might help:
• Never react in anger: When you scream at your son or daughter when they inform you of their decision, you run the risk of alienating them forever. They are just going to go ahead and do as they please, without telling you about it. So hold your temper and deal with the issue as calmly and rationally as you can.
• Ask why: Don’t assume that you know why your child wants to drop out. Instead, ask for the reason – it may be because they cannot cope with their studies, because they are emotionally disturbed, or even because they are just homesick. Some issues can be dealt with in a few days, and your child will want to go back once he or she is over it. Others may run deeper and need more counseling or advice before you can get to the bottom of their minds.
• Talk to them: If your child is willing to talk, try and tell them how important a college degree is in order to succeed in life, how employers value a college degree when they’re looking to hire, and how your salary increases with a good degree under your belt.
• Be open to alternatives: If your child is still adamant about going back, talk about alternatives. Ask them what they want to do if not go to college. Do not criticize or ridicule their choice, no matter how impractical it may be. Instead, tell them about the hurdles they will have to cross and the disappointments they may be setting themselves up for without sounding too opinionated.
• Support to a certain level: When your child quits college, he or she may have something else that they want to have a go at, or they may be at loose ends with no idea as to how to proceed with their lives. Whatever their position, support them by allowing them to stay at home and helping them out, emotionally and financially, until they’re able to get on the path that is right for them. In order to prevent them from becoming too dependent on you though, you need to set a deadline by which they must decide what to do with their lives. This gives them the motivation to succeed, and some kids even go back to college after a break of a month or so.
In case your child is quitting college, ensure that the procedures involved are carried out correctly so that they are able to rejoin classes or take another degree if they choose to do so at a later date.
*This guest article was written by Adrienne Carlson, who regularly writes on the topic of online degrees. Adrienne welcomes your comments and questions at her email address: firstname.lastname@example.org
~ Article Courtesy of www.universityparent.com
~ Parent Resource Expert, Campus Calm